16 years ago
susie

what would you do?

What would you do if your spouse or partner could not have sex due to a perment medical condition . Would you allow your spouse or partner to have sex with someone else and stay with them cause you really do love them or would you leave ( money wise I can not leave at this time)and try to start over . You know when you have it all the time than something happens that you do not get it it is really hard on both people involved (even ifyou medically can not have sex and you have gotten it all the time it is justs as bad for you as it is for the other person involved) . the person with the medical condition as been to many doctors includingCleveland Clinic and nothing has been resolved or anything and they do not know wat to do . Can anyone give any suggestions on what to do
Top 8 Answers
16 years ago
heather b
First of all, I would think if the other spouse would go out on the one that has the condition that would be very disrespectful. This is something that you two would need to work out on your own. If you dont think that your partner can love you just because you cant have sex maybe you should seek help with a marriage counsler. I personally would start there. I am a firm believer that a relationship should not be based on sex, especially if you have been married for sometime. I so personally know someone that this happened to. Unfortunatly he went behind his wifes back and she is the one that couldnt have sex because of a medical condition. He said that she gave him her blessing just to not tell her he was doing so. I would think this was something that you two would have to talk about and would take a special couple to be able to handle a situation like this. I personally dont know what I would do in a situation like this, I would just hope that my partner would stand beside me no matter what my situation...remember those vows sickness or in health, til death do us part...
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16 years ago
Hot Lips 4077
...and has the person seen medical AND psychological doctors? ...and couldnt the one play with the other one with battery operated stuff, go down on them, etc.? personally, if there was a marriage involved, I'd stay but if it was a long relationship/live-with i'd leave and get a fresh start for both. unless there are kids, and then i'd stay also. what a horrible situation, i'm really sorry!
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16 years ago
hollybell
just because partner cant have sex doesnt mean you cant .remember touching ,oral sex and kissing helping they other to have an organsism is still making love just in a differntway love is the most important thing there is in life the way you express is in the touch
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16 years ago
Huguenot
For me it depends on what stage of your relationship you are at. Are you married or common law? Are there kids? The deeper you're into your relationship then the more obvious the answer is.
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16 years ago
Anonymous
dont be heartless, there are other things that are way more importatn in life thatn sex, what if this person couldnt talk, hear, walk, or understand youfor that matter? would you still leave him/her. dont be that person to ruin another's life.
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16 years ago
chkibo2000
tough one, talk to your spouse and see what they say. if you can not talk to them, then you must not be doing the right thing.
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16 years ago
sneekiepleasure
pray for God for guidience no one on here is going to give you the right answer only GOD
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