15 years ago
kurticus1024

why, when after 20 years of marriage and much trying?

I have no sex life and have tried EVERYTHING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! people judge me and call me a perv. I just want to get laid and can't. Its making me CRAZY. Does ANYONE understand how that feels.
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15 years ago
Flagger
We've all been there at one time or another. The lack of sexuality indicates an additional lack of affection and intimacy. I'm sure I could not exist in a marriage, no matter the length without the big three with some level of regularity. Perhaps you should impress on your bride that this is not working for you and it is a deal breaker. Suggest a physical and eliminate the health causes. If that does not help therapy may be indicated, if she considers it a problem as well. If not, sadly, you may need to look for a different venue which does not mean cheating it means separated. What does she say about this? Is this a problem to her? If she does not view it as a problem you need to change her mind or vacate. I do know that the biggest sexual erogenous zone resides between the ears. Good Luck.
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15 years ago
Anonymous
ya i understand...it's not easy i know...and u r not a perv, u r a man who has needs and it's normal...and i like it that you tried and not cheated on her. but i am assuming your wife is about your age and you should be in your early fourties so she has kinda lost her appetite for sex. You should talk to her, try to spice things up a little in bed...do u still love her? (i think you do) maybe go to councelling together. Be romantic with her. I stress on the fact that you have a talk and tell her how you feel...just don't say i wanna get laid, say i miss you and i miss making love to u good luck
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15 years ago
Dizzy
No you aren't being selfish, a good marriage includes having a strong intimate relationship. Tell her the truth, and see whats going on with her to make her not want sex, it might be something fixable.
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15 years ago
Honest Injun
Are you still married.I know what it is like to have to beg my wife of 20 for sex.I get it but having to beg sucks the fun out of it.
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15 years ago
stevegoryan
Get yourself some leather pants and that leather harness and check out those leather bars you mentioned in your previous post. You'll get some, I'm sure.
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15 years ago
?Whiskey Girl?
uuumm No ... You need to try and work it out...if that doesn't work then divorce and move on ... But i still think your being a little selfish
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