15 years ago
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Why does a person have to be so negative?

Negative comments, negative about your friends, negative about your family, negative about your things, and then be totally defensive when it comes to them and their life. Is there any psychological behavior behind this that is real? How do you help someone see what they're doing? Is this person attracted to negativity or what?
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15 years ago
wwhrd
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Sounds very immature, self absorbed and probably also a black hole of need. If it isn't about them, it's not interesting. These people usually never mature past the high school level, and it gets even more annoying as they age since they're not growing up. They LOVE anything that reinforces their negative way of thinking, so save your breath on this lost cause. I've been sucked dry by this type and have no more to give, so save yourself and keep contact to a minimum.
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15 years ago
SirCedric57
It's telling that you say they are also defensive about their own life. That may be your "way in" to get the person to open up about what's really behind this for them. But you'll have to be patient, because whatever it is sounds bottled up and boiling, but also hidden away. The truth is, there are a variety of reasons this could be the case, and simplistic answers won't really get to the heart of the issue for this specific person. There is most likely some root personal cause for this, and if you truly care about the person, then finding out what that is and having empathy for it is more important than dismissing it with some label from a psych 101 textbook.
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15 years ago
donkeysboogycourseofloveandthat
cos if you are positive all the time like ned Flanders off the Simpson's everyone will want to kill you and nothing wrong with a little negativity
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15 years ago
Anonymous
Yes, that person is attracted to negativity...To help, you must bring positive things, it is difficult but rewarding, in time they will heal...
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15 years ago
andybugg2000
Misery loves company. Classic case of cynical-itis
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15 years ago
blonde_goddess2992
well first off there are many reasons they may be acting this way most common is that they are depressed well being positive is mostly the best thing you can do
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15 years ago
and_de_gang
i think , because we make positive. so we make neagtive to accredit positive, if no positive ,it's not negative.
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