16 years ago
Anonymous

my mom and dad keep arguing everyday and i cant take it any more what do i do??

my mom and dad argue eveyday and i feel like its all my fault and they argue over stupid stuff now my dad got kicked out by my grandma and i hardly ever get to see him any more. but my mom and dad are still together. please help me tell me how to deal with all this stuff. Im dying for someone to help me out
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16 years ago
Misti Brock
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DON'T BLAME YOURSELF FOR YOUR PARENTS FIGHTING IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. PARENTS WILL FIGHT AND SOMETIMES OVER STUPID STUFF AND SOMETIMES OVER SERIOUS STUFF. MY MOM AND DAD ALWAYS ARGUED AND I THOUGHT IT WAS MY FAULT. ALL YOU GOT TO REMEMBER IS THAT YOUR PARENTS ARE STILL TOGETHER THEY JUST HAVE SOME FIGHTS AND IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT IS BETWEEN THEM AND THEY WILL SOON GET OVER THE FIGHT AND MAKE-UP AND BE HAPPY AGAIN.
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16 years ago
Karibuboo
Firstly, this is not your fault. Your parents should be protecting you from their inability to get along, reassuring you that this is a grown up thing between them. Find someone you trust that you can talk to...a counselor at school? A friend's parent? Maybe an uncle or aunt. If possible, see if you can move out for a while, stay with one of these people while your parents resolve their issues. My parents use to argue too, and I thought it was my fault at the time. It is never the child's fault. The parents need to find a way to communicate like reasonable people, and protect their kids from their arguments, as they often find themselves feeling stuck in the middle, and feeling guilty because they can't stop the fights. You need to find a healthy supportive environment for yourself. Tell your parents you need a break from their constant bickering and ask them if they can help you. If not, you might have to find the strength within yourself to look for your own peaceful space for a while. Good luck.
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16 years ago
justdanknee
Their arguing is NOT YOUR FAULT. Even if it is sometimes about you, you are just a catylist...they will fight regardless of the reason. Couples get like that sometimes. Here are some suggestions: - Try talking to them. Maybe they could take their fighting outside or somewhere that isn't around you! - Put on your ipod or headphones and try to relax. - Journal your feelings. Writing helps some people. - Talk to a family member about it. Maybe he/she can talk some sence into your parents. Often times, your parents are so caught up in the "moment" that they can't see anything else. Trust me...they don't know just how much their arguing is hurting you. Once they realize, things will change.
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16 years ago
Anonymous
Talk with your school counselor. This may be a form of communication between your parents. Your grandmother should stay out of the relationship. The two have differences that is more than likely why they argue. You are not the problem! They may have finances, but that should not break-up the relationship! Every One has finance problems(That I Know Of)! MOVING OUT IS THE BEST FOR ALL THREE OF YOU TO DO! Grandparents AND Friends Are Problem CAUSES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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16 years ago
Anonymous
I don't mean to make you lose hope or anything but there is really nothing you can do. Your parents are probably just going through some hard times and sometimes they take it out on each other. Just pray to God that it will be alright. Its not your fault either. Good luck!
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16 years ago
Elly
First of all my mom and dad never got married so i dont know exactly how you feel but i know i felt terrible when my mom and step dad argued for months and finally split up. try to go out with friends and get your mind off it. no matter what its not your fault. so dont ever blame yourself. they fight for different reasons, and its not about you. its ok. go out with your friends, go to the movies or mall, it'll help get your mind off your home life.
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16 years ago
twosey ♥
your parent's relationship is just that. you can't take the blame for any of the crap that they do to each other. if you need to talk to someone, try a cool teacher at school or maybe your guidance counselor. sometimes you can't talk to family members because they are taking sides. find someone you can trust who is just there for you. always talk to teachers or counselors at school, be wary of any adult who wants to be your friend in a private place
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16 years ago
bernie s
what a family if you are 18 get out leave them to it you say your gran kicked out your dad or grandad , honey leave home
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