15 years ago
Brown_Sugar

Why do i feel akward around boys and how can i stop this?

hi, i'm 14 and every time i'm around boys my age i feel akward - as if they're staring at me and thinking 'who the hell is she' or just generally staring at me but not in a nice way. I don't know what it is that's making me feel like this because i get people telling me i'm pretty etc but of course i'm not vain and don't think that highly of myself but i just don't understand why i'm like this around boys. It's gotten to the extremes that even when i'm walking home and i'll be on the same side of the pavement as a boy around my age walking towards me i'll cross the road.. but it is always a boy that's good-looking. I go ballet classes and there's a boy there i have to work with that is quite nice looking but when we have to dance together i don't feel akward because the class is full of girls and therefore i guess he doesn't come across very boy like in the sense that he'll go off and tell them things. How can i not feel like this anymore...if it's my confidence then how can i boost it
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15 years ago
Anonymous
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just be yourself and if the guys don't like it then don't worry about it and move on to bigger and better things. Have more confidence in yourself. Good luck
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15 years ago
Anonymous
I'm fifteen and not to toot my own horn but I think after being with plenty over the past 3-4 years I know my stuff. Girls are for some reason naturally self concious, I don't know why perhaps you could tell me. But just to comfort you, unless the guys you hang around are complete douchebags they aren't thinking "Who the hell is she?". Obviously this stems back to something that is making you feel awkward when your around guys and once you solve that you solve your problem. There is this girl at my school that has a confidence so low that she can't be looked in the eyes without getting scared and running off. I know that the reason she is like this is because she has an older sister that is a senior that is very pretty and she feels she has shoes to fill but can't do it. I think the best medicine is to first get comfortable with yourself then you will get comfortable around guys.
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15 years ago
Anonymous
well since ur only 14 its common for you to feel weird around boys. to boost ur confidence look yourself in the mirror and say all the things you like about yourself. be nice to everyone around you. if your a nice person people will see that and respect you. wear things that flatter your body so you can feel comfy with the way you look. and never let anyone tell you that you arent pretty because they're just jealous =]
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15 years ago
Joey
This is what I think you should do.....start small. You need to build your confidence with guys, so start by talking to lesser attractive dudes....guys who you don't really find yourself attracted to. Then, once you get the nack of gabbing with these dudes, work your way up. It will take some time, so take a few weeks to hang with the trolls. You can always use friends, no matter what they look like.
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15 years ago
Anonymous
Well not to be mean but areyou attracted to women? IF not then maybe they are looking at you because they find you attractive all you can do is not care about their opinion and keep your head high (but i notice alot of girls in my class at least 3 or 5 of them are shy around guys two so you are not the only ones.)
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15 years ago
Anonymous
Well, I'm 13 and I still SOMETIMES feel like this around some boys. But some boys im like OH YEAH ITS TIME TO BE MYSELF lol..ya know? the only thing to do is try your hardst not to feel that way. theres no easy solution. its just you and yourself telling urself that everythings ok. Please answer http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Al.VSc9daRxqRTeu36MU5.nAFQx.?qid=20070614095526AAXQRLymine!
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15 years ago
Anonymous
its called self confidence
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