14 years ago
windycity49

help withdrawl method question, is the baby my fiances or not????im stressing me & my unborn baby out?

im due on sept 30, 2007. I got this due date because of an ultrasound that was done on Feb14 of this year and have not had a period in 2 years , well the doc was giving me provera in oct to start a period but it never came, when i do all the conception calculators by due dates it said that my prob. conception date was 1/7/07 and i know this can vary especially with me having so many problems with my cyle, the problem comes in that my fiance and i had a huge blow out the 5th and i ended up messing w friend who used the withdrawl method he pulled out way before ejaculation but i know you can still have preejaculant, well of course you know the story my fiance and i made up and now i am scared the baby is not his, i have sex with my fiance the days before/ after the 7th of Jan. also a fact i forgot to leave out is that i started feeling very tired the first two weeks of jan took a preg test that took ten min to show neg, how worried should i be that its not my fiances the thought kills me
Top 10 Answers
14 years ago
magy
Favorite Answer
There's no way to know with out a DNA test after the baby is born- you can guess, but you'll never know until you have a test done. You OWE IT to your baby to know who the Dad is. It was VERY irresponsible to 'pull and pray'- it CAN lead to pregnancy, and now you don't know who the Daddy is.
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14 years ago
angeleyes818
Right now the only way to be 100% sure is a paternity test after the baby is born. As you said with your cycle being off it is hard to tell your exact conception date. Since you got an ultrasound so early the margin of error of your due date is 3 days plus or minus. With the home pregnancy test the answer that shows up within the first 3-5 minutes are accurate. Everything after that is unreliable. Does your fiance know what happened between you and that other gentleman while yous were broken up? If he does then he probably already knows and accepts the fact that there is a slight possibility that it isn't his. But it is a slight possibility, it is likely that the child is your fiance's.
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14 years ago
mornnglry
Your baby could easily be by either man. Not only is withdrawal a very ineffective contraceptive method (only about 80% reliability!) but because you had sex with the two men within the same time frame there is no way to guess based on that! If your fiance does not know about the possible paternity issue, you really need to clue him in, and plan to have a DNA test done shortly after the baby is born (if that matters to him). Having a huge deception looming over you is no way to start out your lives together.
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14 years ago
JackDiesel & HemiBear's Mom
There is a small chance that the baby could be the friend's. I would suggest having a paternity test done when the baby is born. You need to be honest with your fiance.
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14 years ago
Anonymous
Only way to find out now is by waiting until the baby is born and having a DNA test run.
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14 years ago
Robin C
I’ll second Harley’s answer. Stop stressing; you will not know for sure until the baby is born and you have a DNA test. If you haven’t told your fiancé that about your infidelity, then you need to do so now. The longer you wait the worse it will be.
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14 years ago
3peas in a pod
Yeah well I would be very worried, just because you have a fight with your fiance doesnt mean you should go sleep with someone else! Good luck explaining this to him, I bet you wont have a fiance after all of this is over.
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14 years ago
Harley
Stop stressing. You have NO choice but to wait and do a DNA test. That's it. Final answer. Now go enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible and when the time comes, deal with it. Until then, nothing you can do.
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14 years ago
Anonymous
try to relax. it's got to be hard. there is nothing you can do right now. it could be your friends but sounds like its probably your fiances. get a paternity test done once the baby is born.
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14 years ago
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A DNA test will prove it one way or the other.
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