15 years ago
sweetheart, there's nothing you can do. tell your mother that a parent should have nothing but unconditional love for their child and should want you happy. her religion and her dreams for you (marriage & children, etc) is being compromised. Yes. You can have marriage. Yes. As a lesbian, you can have a child. But she feels threatened by this lifestyle you have. But you have dreams as well, and you can't help being who you are. Yes, you have come into your own at a very young age. (I'm 19 and my sexuality is still confusing to me.) I commend you on knowing who you are...and not changing yourself to fit someone else's need (your mom). You're living with her and right now...you'll have to follow her wishes. There's still email, texting, calling, school - - that time to see each other.
Now onto her being "straight". There's a lot of grey area for sexuality. She may be gay...she may be bi...she may just be attracted to "you" in general. I think she needs more life experience before putting a name on herself.
15 years ago
as a parent, i can understand the mom's being upset at the prospect of their child becoming a sexual creature. While it is all part of growing up, it is a tough part for parents to deal with sometime. You should also remember that this news or revelation probably put your moms back on their heels a good bit. The first thing you both should do is stay calm!!!! I know thats not easy to do as a teenager - he!!, it ain't easy to do as an adult sometimes either! Maybe you should try to sit down and explain to your mom how you feel and how much pain this is causing YOU. You can't expect her to be like all "oh sweetie, you are right, please, run to her now and take her to bed immediately" That is TOTALLY unrealistic. If you can force yourself to sit down calmly with your mom, and discuss this in an adult manner, without getting all pi$$ed, and emotional, it will help i am betting. You may also want to turn your mom onto the PFLAG web site to help HER to understand what you are going through. If you can make headway with your mom, then you can work towards educating Lisa's mom. You still CAN'T expect them to endorse and be happy or supportive at the prospect of the two of you developing a sexual relationship at your age. It probably is no big deal, but as a parent, they are gonna be uptight about that. Its what parents do. Please understand that I am not taking up for your parents on this deal. I am just trying to give you some insight into their thought processes some. Seek first to understand, and THEN to be understood.
Now, the comment you made, "I just about want to die" is totally unacceptable and very scary. If you truly feel that way, then you need to talk to a counselor immediately. You MUST remember dear, whatever this problem entails, it is a TEMPORARY problem. IT WILL PASS EVENTUALLY!!!!
To die is a permanent solution to what is only a temporary problem, and therefore is no solution at all.
This could take some time to resolve. Be patient, be strong, be courteous and respectful, and be mature.
Best of luck to you and Lisa dear.
6 years ago
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