14 years ago
sparkelita

what do I do now?

I have four kids all 6 and under. I have my hand filled on a normal day and my mother left her three with me so she can be with my sister in another state. she will be gone for 2 months. its my sister first baby and I felt bad to tell my mom I could not do it cause my sister needed her and she was there for my first baby. but now am stressed out find myself crying and I dont sleep much the house is A mess. The more thing are filling apart the more I feel like am losing it. My Question is how can I deal with this with out leaving my head what tips can you give me for thing so run smoothly. her kids are teens and are set in the way she does things what do I do now?
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14 years ago
inspector4homes
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What you need is a schedule. From so to so, breakfast is being served. From so to so, is time to clean up the breakfast dishes. From so to so, is television time. From so to so, It is time to pick up toys. From so to so, it is time for playing games. So on and so forth. You might find that if you can get the teens to do some of those things like take out the garbage, clean some dishes, dust, etc. your stress level will go down. Good Luck and hang in there!
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14 years ago
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Sounds like people are taking advantage of your generousity or imability to say no. UYou do not deserve to have to look after all those kids. I have 4 at home now 14 and under and it is busy and hectic and messy but I have my husband to help. I don't know how you are doing it. We have a roster at home - on our fridge - a list of things they must do everyday in order to be able to use the internet or get pocket money. Simple things like make their beds, wash up after dinner and things the 5 yr old can do too. Without this roster it would fall apart. Give each teenager a certain chore they have to be responsible for eg. making sure the bathroom is tidy or the beds are made. We have a clean up the house day each Sat am - and we all help do it. I give them all jobs to do. Even if they are set in their ways this is your house and they wil need to do it YOUR way. Get them to help with the little ones - give them some positive rewards for helping. eg. letting them stay up later. Sorry, I dont know what else to say. Coping with a newborn baby is hard but so is looking after so many kids. 2 months is a very long time.
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14 years ago
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One is to get the teens to pitch in and help around the house and with the little ones. Ask them for the help, don't tell them. Remember when you were a teen, being told was sign for you to ignore. Two is ask your mother for some help. Explain running a house with 7 kids is more than you can cope with. I realize the teens are in school and don't want to move, but maybe she can temporally take some of your kids. Three is to explain to your mother that you cannot cope with the situation and she needs to come home. Probably none of these solutions will work without getting someone upset. But you are already upset, pass it on.
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14 years ago
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I have a filling that I know what you are going through. I have 6 kids all the time by myself at knight while my wife works. I have a 14,12,11,9,9,and a 3 year old. Half girls half boys. Yes it is tough sometimes,but you just have to do what you can for the love the children. I make the older ones clean the kitchen,vacuum,and dust just something to help me out. The younger ones I ask them to pick up toys,take out the trash,and pick up around the yard. If you can get them do just little things for you. It would be the biggest help on you.
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14 years ago
WACVET75
Okay, you have a problem, first sit down by your self and figure out what you need them to do before you sit down with your sisters kids, sure they are used to her way, but they aren't at home and this is your house. Explain to them, don't fuss at them and don't whine about it. Tell them straight, that you need them to be helpful and these are the things they will need to do.. They need to help you, your cooking for more people, your cleaning more, it's not fair that they can't or won't help. Tell them you are glad you could help by them staying with you but now you need their help. If all else fails call their mother, they may think they are on vacation, but your not running a hotel. She may have to lay the law down before things change. If nothing else is there any othe family that could help out? I wish you lots of luck.
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14 years ago
Anonymous
Holy ****!!! Keep yourself together and tell your children every day that you love them. Some people cant have kids and believe it or not would love to be in your shoes
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14 years ago
butch
Go down to the church and get the preacher to suggest something or to send someone every day to help you until your mom returns. I know the church will be glad to help you.
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14 years ago
BabyGirl305
you could tell her someone that could watch them. or you could try and do it all by yourself... Or you can watch the kids ask for some money for food ect. and have a good friend or friends help you. soo yeah hope this helps. :]
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