13 years ago
Anonymous

what do i do to help her?

i hav a frnd hu is so perfectionist... she doesn't accept her mistakes!she defends her opinion!... she loves receiving but hardly gives... she's smart... not really in to fashion n sports... she copys my reactions... almost everybody's laughing, n she's still thinking logically... often reserve what's best n easy for herself... oh please help...
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13 years ago
B
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i hav a frnd hu is so perfectionist... - This is a pretty common personality trait. Perfectionists need to be told to stop sometimes, as they can sometimes delay completion of projects and often ruin a project from being overly fussy with it (for example). It can also mean she pays a lot of attention to what she does, which is also a very positive thing.... If she takes it too far, then you should say something, especially when it prevents people from having a good time / getting the job done. she doesn't accept her mistakes!she defends her opinion!... - This does sound annoying, but it might be also worthwhile to ask yourself if you're maybe being too harsher critique of her? If other people feel she is that way too, then again, I would talk to her about it. Friends aren't fun if they can't admit mistakes, it's not real friendship then! she loves receiving but hardly gives... - Are you talking about emotional / physical / material giving? This does sound a bit selfish though. she's smart... - Nothing wrong with that is there? Depending what you mean by 'smart'... Smart mouthed? Smart intellectually? not really in to fashion n sports... - Again, nothing wrong with that is there? Isn't it a good thing to have different hobbies? she copys my reactions... - Copies your reactions? Do you mean she may have identity issues..? Please expand on this. almost everybody's laughing, n she's still thinking logically... - Are you saying that she doesn't have a sense of humor and is too serious? Maybe you need to tell her to lighten up a bit. often reserve what's best n easy for herself... - Okay, it really sounds she needs someone like you to talk to her about it. If all these things are effecting your friendship, and if she is a real friend, then she will be prepared to listen. If she is not prepared to change, then perhaps it might be an idea to slowly move apart? Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind!! All the best. B x
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13 years ago
Anonymous
It sounds as if she may be rather insecure. Insecure individuals must feel that they are always right because they can not deal with the disappointment of being wrong. They tend to be perfectionist as well; if they are perfect then maybe they will deserve love. I suspect that her parents may be too demanding and she may not feel unconditional love from them. The best thing you can do to is to help her accomplish something on her own. You say she picks the easy way out and that she is selfish so maybe the two of you could get involved in a volunteer organization to help others; she might find that she likes giving. Also,not only will you enjoy yourself and have something to put down on your resume, but you will be helping a friend at the same time.
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13 years ago
Maybe?
So is this a riddle or a question? I have to agree that it does sound like you're a little irritated, perhaps jealous to a degree that your pal isn't a complete moron. I'm not sure what beef you have with her and why you feel the need to be indirectly hostile towards her either. My advice is just that you learn a little from her actions, and then evaluate your own. ....Hmm. A little self reflecting never hurt anyone.
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13 years ago
Matt R
If you really want to be friends with this person, then be relaxed when confronting the problem, don't shove it up that person's face. Remember, we're only human ;)
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13 years ago
Anonymous
You really should juts love your freind for who she is. I kno ppl can be a pain in the butt sometimes, but if your really her freind, you wont try to change her. Happy Christmas!
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13 years ago
Casey
Um.....so you don't like the fact she isn't a retard? You want her to be an average American idiot? Your a "great" friend.
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13 years ago
xhoplessx27
tell her the flaws - politely, and help her or when shez doing something like that, tell her something else she could do.
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13 years ago
xx knickers xx
tell her what she is doing but you haft to see it that maybe see mite not think she fits in well and is trying more to be like her friends to fit in...then again she my just wont to be you ...
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13 years ago
Saldarius
that means she's not ur friend is she's selfish,get a new one and rub it in her face
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13 years ago
Anonymous
sounds like a riddle...
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