13 years ago
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Tila Tequila: Reinforcing negative stereotypes about LGBT people?

I think all reality shows are boring, but I think Tila's "A Shot at Love" is damaging people's opinions on LGBT people. The common stereotype that many people have of gays, lesbians, and bisexual people is that they are perverted, promiscuous, and focused on sex. As a lesbian, I've dealt with a lot of ignorance and discrimination...and I've definitely heard many times that gay relationships are about lust and not love. (Not true, I love my girlfriend more than anything in the world!) Tila's show, where she makes out and gropes all sorts of men and women on camera in search of 'love', seems to reinforce this stereotype... Your thoughts? Agree or disagree? Tell me why. =)
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13 years ago
Anonymous
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AGREE 100%. I feel it is an especially negative portrayal of bisexuality in particular. Bisexual people are misunderstood by gay and straight people alike who think that it isn't a true preference and that they are putting in on to cover up their true sexual identity. People think bi folks are particularly promiscuous and just wanna have 3ways all the time. I've been attracted to boys and girls as long as i can remember, so this is particularly irritating to me. And thanks to Tila and that stupid "i kissed a girl" song, bisexuality is viewed as a 'trend'. A lot of stupid girls are even treating it as such and also for attention. It's so annoying because our culture has come a long way when it comes to tolerance and we do have a long way to go as well. But these little hollywood lipstick lesbian posers are setting the gay community back years with their negative influences on the ever impressionable masses. It's sickening.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
My issue is that it's the show about the bisexual girl, not a show with a girl who happens to be bisexual. The whole point of reality tv is that it ISN'T reality. Nobody believes that Paris Hilton is representative of 20-something year old white women. If she were, would you really want to watch her. Nobody WANTS to watch Tila Tequila look for a meaningful relationship. People want to watch Tila Tequila get groped on national TV. Granted, I don't view that as a bad thing necessarily but that's not the point. I think it's an issue with society that all we WANT from a bisexual woman is this portrayal and that people WANT to believe all bisexual women are that way. Unpopular shows don't stay on the air. Viewers attract advertisers who provide money.
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13 years ago
psycho_lycious
guess what? that's what mainstream media does- it reinforces negative sterotypes about many different people. for example -if you take a basic sociology class in college-read police crime statitstics- you will find that most violent crimes are committed by white males,however,if you watch the news- you will most likely see a reporter talking about a violent crime with a picutre of a black man. there is alot of rap/hip/hop that is nonmisogynist,doesnt glamourize smoking weed,drinking and thug life, but you won't hear it on your radio. Public Enemy had a number selling album on the charts years ago- their rap is all about social justice- guess what? their songs werent played on the radio or mtv-like the other groups who fit the rap stereotype. yeah,Tila is totally reinforcing gay mythology/stereotypes of lgbt people, but why should your group be immune from this,while others aren't?
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13 years ago
dyslexic dog
I agree that she promotes the idea that all LGBT people do is have sex, which is not true! I personally think that sex is best shared between two people who really do love each other. Really, the only think that Tila Tequila has going for her is that she is smoking hot. I know that people don't want to admit it about such a slut, but come on! Have you SEEN her in a bikini? LOL
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6 years ago
Anonymous
Definitely Lady Gaga since I'm a fan and all. Thumbs down whatever but I like her okay! =\ But seriously Tila's a gold digger haha.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
GoldenValleyGuy is a bigot who is not interested in admitting that LBg people can fall in love and commit It may be re-inforcing negative stereotypes but I've never sat down to it so I can't comment from watching it, I do think that for those who see her behaviour it'll confirm their bigotry, shows last when they can get an audience, stereotypes are easier then actually dealing with real issues or real people
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13 years ago
Nathan
I'm sorry but she is correct. I was shown on gaydar earlier because I thought they were like straight people except they were attracted to the same sex. You should have seen the messages on the boards. All sex based, and filthy things at that. Even from some who were supposed to be 'married' and with a partner. They were looking for other sexual encounters. This was the gay men. I'm not saying it's the same case for lesbians. The gay men are promiscuous though, and well.....just weird in the things they say and do. I was shocked.
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13 years ago
amberella138
100% Agree! Negative! Yes... I'm a sucker for those reality shows and I knew in the first show she wasn't gonna pick the girl even tho she was FREAKEN AWESOME! Shes not looking for a shot of true love. That's reality! She gets paid to act like she could actually fall in love with a women. You can just tell. Being Bi Sexual is more of a fad now than ever and it sucks for women and Men who really do get feelings either way and not in a SEXUAL way but a loving, companion way. I think its a kick in the balls (sorry guys) for all off us who really do take our sexuality serious. C'mon... like when she meets some of the parents and is making sexual comments the whole time?!?! Wtf? Who does that? Straight, gay, bi, pan, whatever you want to label yourself!!!... really.... She may think shes "OPENING" some doors for Bi sexuals but I personally think shes made us look like sex obsessed, lap dancing (which I dont mind myself), pervos. No love in that show. Just a waste of an hour a week for me. I didnt even bother with the second show. But Im guessing she picked a girl to prove she was soooo bi sexual???
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13 years ago
Amanda C
while im intellitgent enough to know that saying all LGBT people are easy slut is a redicuolous thing to believe, i agree that Tila Tequila and a shot at love definatly reinforces that stereotype.
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13 years ago
John L.
I have got to admit she did give all of us a bad reputation. But some bisexuals are really like that, so I don't know. Maybe we should make a REAL bisexual have their own show and show the world that being bisexual isnt all about sex and lust, but love and relationships. ----- ------ -------- ---------- --------- ------- ---------- ----------- ---------------- Several studies comparing bisexuals with hetero or homosexuals have indicated that bisexuals have higher rates of sexual activity, fantasy or erotic interest. Van Wyk and Geist (1984) found that male and female bisexuals had more heterosexual fantasy than heterosexuals. Dixon (1985) found that bisexual men had more sexual activities with women than did heterosexual men. Bisexual men masturbated more but had less happy marriages than heterosexuals. Bressler and Lavender (1986) found that bisexual women had more orgasms per week and they described them as stronger than did hetero or homosexual women. Goode and Haber (1977) found bisexual women to sexually mature earlier, masturbate and enjoy masturbation more and to be more experienced in different types of heterosexual contact. Recent research suggests that, for most women, high sex drive is associated with increased sexual attraction to both women and men. For men, however, high sex drive is associated with increased attraction to one sex or the other, but not to both, depending on sexual orientation More recent research, however, associates high sex drive and increased attraction to both sexes only in women. Bisexual men's pattern has been more similar to heterosexuals with a stronger correlation with high sex drive and other-sex attraction. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexual#Sex_drive So maybe its right...
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