i am torn between the pleasures of the world and the longing for spiritual development. how to come out?

Only because you have not yet truly seen that one is deceit.

Do you have any evidence that spiritual development requires abandonment of pleasures? Is living a celibate,vegetarian, drink-free life &wearing a beard and a loin cloth THE ONLY WAY? There are many gurus (real or fake),who may say so.But others don't ("Bagwan"Shree Rajnee a.k.n.as Osho & David Deida & Barry Long & tantra people.) I assume you are not really and freely enjoying the pleasures of life. So, do much more of what you are doing already. Try the way of more freely,wholeheartedly and intensely opening up to pleasure, connection and fulfillment without guilt feelings. Stay awake to spiritual approaches like yoga, martial arts and meditation. Later you can try the way of self-starvation, self-flaggelation, abstinence and isolation.

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by pleasures oriented games, but you can grow and develop spiritually and still enjoy life. Any pleasure that is over-indulged (obsessed) is not healthy. You need to look for a happy medium. Study and seek the truth, your truth, in who you are and life's lessons. You need not give all your worldly possessions away for spiritual growth, but you need to realize their importance in your life and prioritize them. They can not be the most important to you, but you don't need to give everything away either. Unless your becoming a priest or monk. Whatever your situation is evaluate, decide and follow through Good Luck on your quest....

There's a time for everything. Every stage must be complete before the next is begun. If you're up to pleasures of the world, then pleasures it must be, or the time for spiritual development will never come.

This means you have some past sadhna to your credit - this life or some other-- and obviously you are having and going to have a tough time on account of this dillema for sometime until unless you have made some progress and are on the other side that you have been avoiding since some time your longing will not leave you brother and it would be hard to cross this situation but with efforts and discipline your dillema will be resolved but remember you cant rest until you go your real way and until you make efforts in that direction the base impulses wont leave you alone..so rise above them by spiritual practice brother start today itself with japa from someone who has been there and seen that

Use everything to ur advantage. Pleasures and pains are same in time that recogonization comes. Enjoy life that is what life is meant for. But hapiness cannot be always found by these enjoyments. When we try to find its true source then we find that eternal joy. Till then finding is finding only. Fulfilling is only a myth too.

Primarily spirituial development should not be a hindrence. When you do ignore every thing.Later you can always be with friends family and all the pleasures of the world.When time comes you should cut off & shift completely into your spirituality.It is He takes you in a right path. Never worry? When God is there why do you worry?concentration in any field is within you ?That's how i carry on?

'Moderation' is the word for all of us my friend. It is no possible to be completely detached from the worldly desires. "Detachment is not the lack of Means, Its marked by the freedom of heart." For example, It is easy to break all the connections with this world (Like Monks and priests) and live a spiritual life. But its is difficult to test my honesty or Truthfullness or any other Virtue by living in this social bindings. In short people who live spiritual life by staying in all the social bindings are much higher than people who stay away from these bindings. So enjoy this world but balance your life between the spirituality and Desires.

Seek and you will find.