13 years ago
Anonymous

what can I do about my husband's gambling?

My hubby is in Tenn. this week for training for work. Well his training only takes like 3 hours a day and the rest of the day they get to do whatever. Well all week he's spent from the time they are done in class till midnite at a casino...and of course gambling w/ OUR money. I told him I don't really approve of him going for the third time after he lost the night before but he just told me to get over and and not tell him what to do. Well that hurt me b/c its my money too and last night we got into a HUGE fight about it. I've never grown up around that and I don't mind him going once in a while but seriously, he's in another state w/ tons of stuff to do and he decided to sit around a table and play w/ our money and loose? I don't want to be a bad wife and say he can't go, but I don't want to see him there anymore. What kind of compromise can we come to thats reasonable?
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13 years ago
hlp4U1799
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Well I know what I would do. I would estimate how much he has spent gambling (lost) and I would go shopping and spend the same amount. Even if you have to open up a new credit account to do it. It would be better just to blow money you have because that will really hurt him the most. Once you put him in shock over the money you have wasted and you have proved your point, return the items, if you need to that is. I guess what I am trying to say here is give him a taste of his own medicine and see what happens. Is he going to yell at you for doing the same thing he did, blow money out the window? At least you can return the items and get your money back, he can't.
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13 years ago
godiva
well, thank god you don't live in vegas, some ppl. are addicted to gambleing and it sounds like your husband is one of them. they will put gambleing in front of their jobs wifes, children, before everything else. He has his way out there and they always think they can win back the lost money but seldom do. I'd put a stop on all bank transactions or go and take out all the money and put it in another account if he is out there for more than a day or two b/c he can loose all your money.
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13 years ago
kelly b
CAll your bank ASAP try and cancel his privlidge to recieve the money I do not want to butt in too your business but you have to be the strong one and make it stop now! If you do not you are gonna find yourself broke and wondering what to do next been there done that and Divorced the bum for taking a gambling problem and putting it b4 our family! it will only get worse.... The next excuse is going to be coming soon on why he has to go out of town.....or why he needs 20 bucks it will not stop it will move to betting on horses and sport games it is a horrible addiction you need to cut the money supply off now....
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5 years ago
garbarino
My mom consistently instructed my sisters that if the one alternative that they had used to be among marrying a Drunk or a Gambler, take the inebriated. Why? A inebriated will drink till he passes out whilst a gambler will lose the roof from over your head. Find a brand new guy earlier than he pulls you down so low you'll certainly not see the solar shining once more.
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13 years ago
No Special Agenda
That's one of the reasons people have separate accounts, so if one blows the reserves making it difficult to pay the bills, there is still money left for the needed items. (Like bills, food and utilities) Time to get it started. Before he wipes out everything..........(he needs professional counseling otherwise this marriage will end sooner than his loses)
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13 years ago
Julie H
Tell him to either get help for his gambling problem or he will get divorce papers served. And mean it. This won't get any better and will only get worse. Gamblers always believe they are just one bet away from winning. It's sick. It doesn't have anything to do with being a "bad" wife....he is being a "bad" husband.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
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