15 years ago
falling

LDS community...What should I tell my bishop?

I have made a mistake and I know that i need to go talk to my bishop, but I don't know what exactly to tell him. I can't give him details, and it is far easier to hide behind a computer screen for the answer, I just need to know what I need to tell him so I can start to repent of the terrible thing I have done. Here is the situation, I am so terribly sorry for the detail: i was wearing only just a tiny bit of clothing and he was wearing nothing and he pressed into me pretty hard and then out and over and over again and came while he was pressed into me, He didn't go all the way inside of me because the clothing i was wearing would not permit that. Do I need to tell my bishop that I had intercourse, or that I just came ridiculously close? I do not at all want to minimize what I have done. Im sorry.
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15 years ago
Rivka Ras
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Bishops generally don't need details. Tell him that you have broken the law of chastity, and that you feel it is serious. If he asks questions beyond that, answer them as honestly as possible. Go through the steps that he wants you to go through, as well as your Heavenly Father. You'll be fine. We all have our challenges, and it is really good to deal with situations like this! I promise, you are going to feel a lot better once it is done, and as long as you are honest about everything, then it will be lifted from you. That's one of the great things about our faith!
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7 years ago
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I'm terribly sorry that it happened. I wish I had more experience with this sort of thing, I'm just kid at college, not a bishop by any means. I just know that Bishops are totally inspired, and that it'll be okay and I promise you that you'll feel better. Don't feel abandoned. When you talk to your bishop, don't hold anything back or minimize anything. He is an appointed Judge of Israel. He can help you know what to do to repent, and most importantly of all, when he feels like you've repented, move on with your life. Don't keep slamming yourself for something you've repented of. Jesus Christ suffered so He could "succor" you in your time of need. I view "succor" as an active word; He will not just stand in a corner and ask for you to come to Him, but He is willing to run to you. It'll work out okay, just don't delay talking to your bishop. The sooner the better.
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15 years ago
mij
It sounds close enough to intercourse just tell him that you feel terrible and you know you've made a huge mistake by putting yourself in a situation where you shouldn't have been. You can tell him it was intercourse but don't tell him details he doesn't need to hear it. Ask what you need to do to start the process of repentance.
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15 years ago
27PurpleRoses
You were playing with fire, honey. You could get pregnant even though you had clothes on. I am not Catholic so I would confess to God and repent and not do any such thing again. You are a member of a church where you confess your sins to a bishop so you need to do that. By the way, your sin is sex without marriage, adultery. Forbidden in the ten commandments. Wait until marriage because it is supposed to be a sacred union between a man and a woman and if your boyfriend complains then drop him like a hot potato. Run from him to cover yourself with the wings of God's protective angels so you do not get into this situation again.
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15 years ago
jolie l
You shouldn't tell your bishop anything. What you do is personal, and if you believe in God which I think you do because you are all caught up believing sex is bad. Take it up with your god. Don't let the mere Man Bishop tell you everything will be better if you just stop doing what you are doing and repent. You obviously know you shouldn't have had sex, for whatever reasoning you have. Just grow up and put your big girl panties on!
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15 years ago
Isolde
The Bishop will give you 10% admonishment and 90% encouragement. He will tell you that what happened was improper. He will give you guidance to making the adjustments you need to avoid this or a bigger problem in the future.
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15 years ago
gumby
Um, you need to just go talk to your bishop. Say what you feel you have to say in order to complete the repentance process. If you still feel guilty after talking to him (and not "broken heart and contrite spirit" but real sick to the stomach feeling guilt) then you probably didn't tell him what you needed to.
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15 years ago
oceanwoman
This is a personal matter. Please dont feel as you need to "tell" this man anything! Especially, to give these details to any man! You are opening up his mind for perversions... in my opinion. Pray about it if you wish and repent and do not do it again until married...if that what you want. Sounds like your a virgin still.. (This kind of pressuring to tell details is sickening) (perverts)
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15 years ago
Roseann
Where does it say in the Bible that you have to tell a bishop or anyone else in the church? You are only accountable to God and your parents if you are a minor. Your parents are your spiritual covering not your bishop, but I am sure that what I am saying goes against what you have been brain washed. So very sad to me. God bless...
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15 years ago
Anonymous
its not against the law to have sex, if you wanted to do it theres nothing wrong. You have your own belifes aswell, dont need to fallow what your parents tell you ALL THE TIME.
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