13 years ago
seriously2sweet4u

How would you interpret/take this?

My husband and I are going through a divorce. (Aiden is our son.) I sent him the following e-mail: "I know that we've both been very hurt and angered and disagree sadly on more than we agree. However, seeing as how we both grew up with bitterly divorced parents I know neither one of us wants that life for Aiden. That's why I truly feel that we both need to set everything aside and become friends. Being friendly and being friends will be what's ultimately best for Aiden, and that's all that should matter to either one of us at this point. We both need to let go and not play games." He responded with: "Things certainly aren't indicative of a bright and friendly future relation."
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13 years ago
Medusssa
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There is not a whole lot to interpret here. What is the point in trying to be friends with this jerk? Obviously he does not want to be friends. He doesn't even really care about his own son. Look at his ACTIONS, not his words. Don't worry about what his next move is, get a good lawyer & YOU make the moves! Don't do anything that makes you look desperate. Time to be business-like. As for child support, I went to the Domestic Relations in his state of residence and the Support enforcement agency where I live & let both agencies corner him to pay the child support that he was obligated to pay. It took him being handcuffed, getting strip-searched by the jail staff, wearing an orange jail jumpsuit with lovely coordinating prison-issued flip flops to get him to never-ever again try to skip out on child support. You know, I never get anxious over bad memories of him again. All I have to do is close my eyes, picture him in the slammer and....aaaaahhhh! ;)
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13 years ago
~Baby~
Dear mmoy, I know that you are probably getting frustrated with the way your soon to be ex is taken this divorce, and the relationship with his son.What I understand of the comment he wrote to you is this: Everything we need to deal with in the future does not show an indication it's certainly not going to be bright and a friendly. You mention that he pays child support is it enough? If it's not enough go to the child support division and file a claim so that he will end up paying more a month. If he really does not pursue a relationship with his son there is nothing you can do. He is making that choice, he's the one who's missing the memories. You would have to be there for your child for most everything. I feel that he thinks when you say that you want to have friendly relationship with him for the sake of Aiden I feel that he thinks you are going to go further than that. Also you stated that he was abusive do you really want your child with him. You might want to speak to someone about that. I wish well. Good Luck
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13 years ago
Sugar78
Going though the divorce process is stressful. Give it time. Maybe one day he will come around. He probably doesn't see a friendly relationship in the future but when all the crap is over and done with, he might find that it's easier to be friendly rather then mad. :)
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13 years ago
oracleofohio
I'm taking it as him saying "Uhhhhh no" You might as well kiss this relationship goodbye. If he's not involved with your son now, he probably never will be. I've seen it time and time again. Best to get on with your life and be the best mom you can to your son. Good luck :)
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13 years ago
mr pickle
Here is the deal....you are very righteous. My advice is to be WRONG about EVERYTHING! When he discovers he has a voice, you will have the friendship you are requesting for the two of you. Your son wins.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
You tried to patch up with sincerity - but you are considerably late - you tried to buy the ticket when train has left the station. He is fed up and showed his unwillingness. This shows lack of common sense and understanding between you and him.
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13 years ago
megstar777
Whatever happened between you two was harsh on his side! You should give him space, and he should come around! My mother had a similar problem when she was younger, now she and her ex get along just fine!
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13 years ago
mikeshere
Sounds like he is bitter, but i think in a little time he will be ok. Hang in ther and God bless.
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13 years ago
J.C LoVE
you want him to be friends with you, why would he want to do that??? you divorced him so get over yourself, if my wife done that to me i would not want to ever see her again, and he use to threaten divorce so you would see just what you have, i do the same thing sometimes to my wife, it not that i want one it's just to show her that i'm upset!
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13 years ago
Ashley N
Sounds like he is bitter.
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