13 years ago
Anonymous

Crossdresser wants to buy a wedding dress?

I am a 28 yearld sissy crossdresser and as far back as I can remember I have always wanted to have a wedding dress. I know this might sound quite odd to some people and I am sorry if you are offended by this. I have heard from another crossdresser who went to davids bridal to try on gowns. I actualy called my local davids and they entusiastcly were like come on in we help all customers. However my biggest fear is making a sales associate or even worse another bride uncomfortable. Its such a special process in a girls life and I dont want to be a weird memory in it. My question is would you feel really uncomfortable if you saw a crossdresser trying on gowns at the same time as you? And if you have any other advice about how to do this Id like to hear it. thanks
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13 years ago
Anonymous
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Breathe deep and walk into the store. Salespeople have evolved a lot since the 1950s. They will be helpful -if only because they want to make a sale. Plus they have seen it all. Believe me. There's no way to make a salesperson uncomfortable. Maybe this experience would help you: I am a long time crossdresser. On a cold, snowy day I went shopping -in drag- to a large department store. I got me a bracelet and the salesguy didn't even flinch. As I was walking out, I catched a glimpse of myself: with the melted snow and the heat inside the store, my makeup was a complete trainwreck. I looked straight out of a crossdresser's nightmare. But then again, the salesguy didn't let it show. That's how they roll. As for other customers, you just tell your sales assistant you want some privacy and they will find a discrete place for you to try on dresses -plus that avoids any potential reaction from customers (which is unlikely anyway).
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13 years ago
Bride to be 08/15/2009
If you are worried about offending anyone else, then call the bridal shop and explain how you feel. Ask them if they have any "slower" times they would recommend setting an appointment for. Or ask them if they can make an exception and let you come in right at closing for an hour. But if I were in a bridal shop and a cross-dresser came in to try on gowns, I would not be offended UNLESS they were making a mockery out of being a bride. Be care-free! Do something wild in your life!
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13 years ago
Anonymous
I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all!!! One of my best friends is gay, and dang it if he asked me to go with him to pick out a wedding dress i TOTALLY would love to! You have the SAME EXACT RIGHT as every other woman to go try on your wedding dress, and if anyone says differently while you're there..tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine! If you feel uncomfortable for any reason though, I'm sure you can let the sales associate know and they'll be more than happy to do their best to make it better. I got my dress from Davids Bridal and their service was excellent! :) I hope you find your dress!!
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13 years ago
Kawana♥James
Not really, I mean....I"M JUST SAYING...what if you were just a really big woman???Should really big women make you uncomfortable. IF you make them uncomfortable then they are horrible, Because I can say it would be a strange thing to see, but who wants the run of the mill trying on gowns thing...?It'd probably give a girl a fun story and you the chance to have what you always wanted, but it is really nice of you to think about making other uncomfortable. I hope you find the one you want and I hope it makes you happy!! Don't let others opinions crop your style!!! OH...and if she's trying on her gown with her girls...usually brides are a little caught up in the moment of finding that dress to worry about the people around you!!!
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13 years ago
Amy M
Everyone has the right to be happy. If this makes you happy to have a dress, then do it. I wouldn't worry about what other people will think. If there was a "cross dresser" next to me while I was trying on dresses I would get a kick out of it. Anyone who would be offended by it is just judgmental and you will never make those people happy. Let me put it this way. My best friend planned my bachelorette party and knew I wanted to dance but not get hit on all night so we went to a gay bar. My bridesmaids, (sisters in law) refused to go because they didn't agree with gay people. Yet they call themselves christians. Its not anyones right to judge anyones lifestyle. Each person is entitled to be happy regardless. You need someone elses approval for that.
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13 years ago
Believe
Don't be silly, you are entitled to shop for dresses just as much as the bride next to you. You are doing nothing wrong. If you feel uncomfortable and don't want anyone else to feel uncomfortable, maybe a smaller bridal shop is the way you should go. There is often only 1 or 2 appointments at a time. Good Luck and Congrats!
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13 years ago
melbird1981
I tried on wedding dresses at davids and was offended by the skinnier bride next to me that told me my hips looked large in one of the dresses! I would have had zero problems trying on dresses next to you!! Its great fun, and i think everyone should get to do it! just make sure to take someone with you and a camera, not all the dresses look as great as they do in the stores on film! i wish i could go with you! good luck and have a blast!!!
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13 years ago
supergoober
I tried on a dres next to a very gay man who was cross dressing for his wedding and OMG did I have so much fun. He was very honest about my dress lol but I did have difficulty answering questions about his (the dresses were not meant to fit a mans body). So to answer your question, offended no. A little wierded out yes. Good luck and I hope you find your dress! PS Try some 2nd hand bridal stores, they tend to be not quite so busy but have a great selection and cheaper dresses.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
That is the sweetest thing I've heard in awhile. It's so sweet that you care about others. It wouldn't make me uncomfortable I'd just look at tyou and go on about my business. It's not my life, not my choice! If someone cares, screw them.
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13 years ago
RAVEN
well it wouldnt make me feel uncomfortable in any way, none at all you should go for it, and make it as special to you as it is to anyone else trying on a wedding dress good luck
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