13 years ago
Anonymous

Hello, I am a 25 non-muslim who is invovled with a 30+ Muslim man. He wants me to have a child, bad idea?

Hello, I am a 25 non-muslim who is invovled with a 30+ Muslim man. He wants me to have a child, bad idea?
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13 years ago
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It depends on whether or not you want to have a child. Think about it carefully, and talk to your husband about it. ____
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13 years ago
VickyVenom
http://muslimsagainstsharia.blogspot.com/ Yeah. It's a bad idea. As the woman he'll be nice to you until you marry him and become his property unless you live in America and then he'll ask you to 'visit' an Islamic country and then you're basically screwed. I'd leave his Islamic *** while you have a chance.Also the child will be raised a Muslim if he has anything to say about it and that will include force and threats. I'm not saying all Muslims are this way but most are. You need to get onto youtube and check out some world news. I'm not talking about the '**** Islam' stuff (although that can be illuminating )but about the stuff actually going on in the world with Islam. Then watch the hoops these people jump through to deny the truth.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
Total lunacy. Your asking this question because your rational mind already knows the obvious answer but its emotion that guides most people and its your "feelings" that you must first overcome. First, I would simply ask you to do research on your own. Answers from others can easily be rationalized as "bigoted". If you do web searches on the issue of marriage between muslims and "kafir" you wont be able to rationalize as easily. In your research, see if you can find articles about the doctrine of "Jihad" and how it applies to ending kafir bloodlines. Many Muslims believe that marrying kafir woman and making the children Muslim is consistent with their duty of Jihad because its stops the growth of non-muslim bloodlines and replaces them with Muslim. Of course, this all sounds to "nefarious". After all, he must be doing something that is appealing. However, its not like Muslims simply walk up to a kafir woman and say "look here, i must end non-muslim bloodlines by mating with you and making the kids muslim". Naturally, he will push the "kids must be muslim" idea with smooth talk, but I can guarentee its non-negotiable. The kids must be Muslim. See if you get a good explaination for why this "must be".
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13 years ago
VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps!
That depends on a number of things. One, do you want a child? Two, are both of you willing to work through your religious differences to do what's best for the child? Three, will he let you practice your religion (or lack thereof) without imposing the precepts of Islam on you. Four, will you do the same for him? So, for example, he won't expect you to wear the headscarf, but he will ask that you not bring pig foods or alcohol into the house. If you can compromise around your differences, and you want a child as well, then you may be able to make this work.
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13 years ago
MoeZ
There are an incredible amount of bad, ignorant answers here. If you two are married, no matter his religion, I would not suggest having a kid with him. Secondly, if you do have a kid, him being Muslim has no factor in it. Stereotypes dictate that he will leave you, his family will hate you, he will beat you, ect. This is really offending to me, as an arab muslim. 3 of my aunts married non-muslim, non-arabs, and NO ONE in our family acted as badly as the people said above they would. There were obviously the arguements, but that is gonna happen no matter who is married to who. In Islam, his only obligation is just to teach his children about Islam. He really has no right, even in Islam, to force the kid to be muslim. The ideal Muslim way would be he teaches the kid his religion, you teach the kid yours, and then when the kid is older, he/she can decide. PLEASE ignore the ignorant answers. Stuff like that creates stereotypes for all Muslims, when there are a few bad ones that get culture shocked.
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13 years ago
She said
Well he cannot be very serious about being a Muslim if he is "involved" with a non Muslim. Muslim are not to have pre marital relations. Yes he is permitted to marry a non Muslim woman but only of the Books ie Torah and Bible and that woman would have to agree for the children to be raised within the Muslim faith. Are you suggesting he wants you to have a child outside of marriage? If so what kind of Muslim is that and if he is like that his faith is way down his list of priorities and is obviously a total non issue for him making your question what? Islam does not come into it.... @tikio - What the Hell are you talking about? He can only marry a Christian, Jew or Muslims so if the asker is a Christian she does not have to change her faith to marry him. Should they split he would have to pay for that child like any other father.... I am a westerner and a Muslim and me and my kids most definitely see "eye to eye". You are not describing a single muslim man I know. All adore both there wife and there children. Family is paramount in Islam I dont know where you where raised but in the UK and any other Muslim country I have been in Muslim men adore there children and treat them with nothing but love and respect. What total rubbish! Of course there are exeptions all faiths and no faiths at all have controling men that does not make there faith responsible for them being controling idiots does it. You may have had a bad experience that does not mean all muslim men are what you have experienced. I have a Protestant cousin who's husband beat her within an inch of her life several times not your not telling me that his faith makes all protestant men wife beaters does it?
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13 years ago
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Terrible idea for the following reasons: 1.- For what you say, you two are not married. 2.- He obviously wants the child to raise him/her as a Muslim. 3.- Islam has many rules that he being your man would expect for you to follow regardless your religion or lack of it.
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13 years ago
By Faith
Bad idea! Wrongfully called "pre-marital sex" and "free love" by the worldly crowd, fornication is the act of intercourse between unmarried partners, and it is strictly forbidden in the scriptures. The marriage bed is undefiled (Heb. 13:4), but fornication is an abomination in the sight of God (Rom. 1:28-29; I Cor. 6:13- 20, 7:2, 10:8; Gal. 5:19-21). We read in I Corinthians 6:9-10 that fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (KJV)
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13 years ago
Anonymous
Involved? Or married? Don't have a kid just because some guy wants you to. Anyway, I read something earlier about how their religion requires that you have sex with him whenever he wants, or Allah will be angry with you. So I think you are waaaaaay past bad ideas, seeing as you're already "involved" with him.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
If you don't feel good about it-- go with instinct. No good can come from negative feelings. If you like the idea and there's no danger to be seen, go for it.
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