12 years ago
jojo

should I give wedding ring back?

My husband and I are getting a divorce and I was wondering if I should give the ring back being he bought it for me? He said I should be giving it back to him but I want to know if I have every right to keep it?
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12 years ago
truefirstedition
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Legally, the ring belongs to you, whether he bought it or not. The only time a ring MUST be returned is when an engagement ring is giving but the wedding does not take place. That's because the e-ring is a "conditional gift" - it was given on the condition of marriage. Doesn't matter who breaks the engagement. All but two US states recognized that the ring goes back to the person who bought it if the marriage doesn't happen. But your case is different. You were married, so you "sealed the deal" in terms of ring ownership (for both your wedding ring and your e-ring). It doesn't matter if you cheated on your husband with his best friend, or if you're the one insisting on a divorce - the rings on your hand (or in your jewelry box) are legally yours. He can take you to court if he wants, but he has no legal right to those rings. You can do whatever you want with them - throw them at his head, sell them, save them. The only reason this would change is if you have a pre-nup that says that the rings would be returned to the purchaser if the marriage is ended. If you don't have a pre-nup, or if it doesn't talk about the rings or other gifts, you're in the clear. Now, you might have a moral reason to give the ring back - it was a family heirloom in his family, or you want a clean break with him, whatever. Again, legally, you don't have to. But it's worth considering whether you really want it. I have to be honest - unless it was a family ring, I'd sell it and take the money :)
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12 years ago
is it time to go home yet?
If you are being reasonable and he is as well then you can make a compromise. Maybe you can keep the ring and he can keep something else that you both want. Don't take the advice of others and get a lawyer. You'll end up dragging yourself through court until there is nothing left and the only one who will get anything are the lawyers.
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12 years ago
Angela D
Your wedding ring was a gift to you, it is therefore now your property and you are entitled to keep it if you want to. It may have been a gift for a specific reason but that doesn't alter the fact that it was given to you. And it may seem a little strange wanting to keep a wedding ring to a marriage you are not now in but no more so than him asking for it back....I'd like to see the look on the woman's face if he ever re-marries and uses the same ring. If for some reason you happen to like it then by all means keep it...it is at the end of the day yours to keep if you wish.
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12 years ago
rustedbutterfly
It depends... if giving it back helps you get more in a settlement, then maybe giving it back would be the answer. BUT, the general rule is the wedding ring is considered a gift, as is the engagement ring. If I were you I would either keep them for my children or pawn them for some extra money. And... what about his ring? Does he keep that or is he giving it back to you in exchange for his demand that you return his? If he is keeping his then there is no way you should give yours back, regardless of whether or not he paid for both.
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12 years ago
Akhil
If u got a compensation against ur divorse then u can give the ring back....but if u want to keep something of his that reminds about him then u can keep this ring with u its not a big deal.....but what are the circumstances after divorce between u both only u know better so, it all depends upon that
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12 years ago
Anonymous
well.if u keep the ring then it's a sign that you would remember him always...imagine when you would be an old woman,someday you look at the ring on your finger or take it out from a locker,you would only sigh and think about your husband.divorce means that neither of you are happy with each other...and your marriage was only a bad relationship as shown by the dicorce,,its better to return it to him..or if u think that you can turn the ring into cash..then you can do so by selling it...because now you are the rightful owner of that ring Cheers!!
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12 years ago
Woods
He would like it back, but he gave it to you and now it's yours to do with as you like. Honey, if he's a bum, I'd keep it. He doesn't deserve it back. If you're the problem and want to give it back, then fine. But I bet it's both of you that can't get along. So.......keep the ring and move on.
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12 years ago
Kimberly R
Judge Judy say you get to keep it! The engagement ring is a condition of marriage and ..... you married him. I used my wedding to pawn to offset some of my divorce expenses. THE RING IS YOURS!. Tell him so. Good luck.
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5 years ago
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give wedding ring
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12 years ago
Linds
In my opinion, if he bought it for you and gave it to you, it is totally all yours to keep. The only way I would even consider giving a ring back is if it were a family heirloom.
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