13 years ago
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What happened to your sex life after you gave birth?

Well I had sex with my husband when my baby was 3 months ,( she is 5 now) but I realized that I don't want to have sex anymore!.Well I'm not excited as I used to be.... I worked 32-30 hours a week and I pump at work on my breaks . I finished tired at the end of the day, but that is not the problem. I'm not on the mood ! Have this happened to you? thanks
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13 years ago
ஜBECஜ ~Mama to Lucy & bump~
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I don't know....I think someone came a stole it???? Maybe it ran away....or maybe it is hiding under the fridge.... hang on.... nope I just checked. Maybe yours and my sex life have teamed up and are wreaking havoc over in the politics section of Y!A??? Honestly, it takes a fair bit to get me in the mood now days... mostly because I just don't let myself because I am so tired. If I could get some decent sleep I'd be much more receptive to letting Hubby seduce me. I don't often initiate but if I let hubby give it a go I find I can get in the mood. But more often than not, I don't let him because I am so tired. If tiredness isn't your issue you can try just giving sex a go..... you'll probably find that after a bit of good foreplay you'll be much more in the mood
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13 years ago
Brooke
I agree-I used to want sex several times a week. Now that I have a 5 month old, I am never in the mood. I work full time and my husband stays at home with our daughter. I pump on my breaks at work and am so tired all the time. He never complains, as he is tired too. But I wish I wanted it more. And even when we do finally take the time to get cozy, it's hard for me to 'get there' now. Sorry if it's TMI, but it's the truth. I think a baby has brought us closer in some ways, but we're still adjusting to our new parenting roles and it has caused some riffs in our relationship. We have to take a step back now and then to evaluate how we're treating each other. I have faith it will get better, but not without some work on both our parts. Good luck-
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13 years ago
Mami2aLittleBalkan
Not at all. My husband and I were intimate 3 weeks after my son was born and it was just as good, if not better than it was before. I'm not sure why, but we absolutely enjoy it so much. I'm actually in the mood more than my husband is, but he's usually ok with helping me fullfill my needs... ;-) But that's not to say that it's bad that you're feeling this way. A lot of women feel that way after the birth of their children. It's an easy way to feel. We're all tired and stressed and sleep deprived. With me when I was feeling down and stressed the only thing that could comfort me was spending time with my husband. Perhaps that's why it's so great for us. But for some women there are other things to comfort them. It's different for different women. Don't feel bad. One day when things start to calm down a bit you will be in the mood again.
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13 years ago
Uh_Leesh_Uh
Yes that has happened to me. We waited the recommended six weeks but I think he was the only one who had any fun. My son is 2 1/2 months now and things are getting a little bit better in the comfort department, but it still takes a lot more than it used to to get me aroused. It did help when we went to the store together and picked some lubricants. I guess breastfeeding can make you dry down there, plus it encouraged more foreplay. Don't worry, I'm sure things will get better. Just make sure you are in tune to your husband's needs as well. Even if you aren't in the mood, he probably is.
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13 years ago
~~Daniel's Mommy~~
Not one bit...I was intimate with my husband 3 weeks after I had my c section(I know...supposed to wait 6 weeks...but oh well) Our sex life has gotten better actually. Not that we have a lot of time these days...but on an intimacy level it is so much better. We don't schedule time...but we do make time for each other. I might lose an hour sleep, but it is worth it to remain in a close intimate relationship with the father of my child.
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13 years ago
ohmeohmy
my sex life halted when I got pregnant between being tired and my hormones I felt little to no sexual desire after the birth of my son.... with him nursing constantly, my hormones, bring exhausted etc I wasn't in the mood .... I'm not a touchy feely sort of person so holding a baby all day and catering to his needs really just left me with the feeling of "I need a break from touching" so when my son went to sleep I needed a "timeout" my hubby and I didn't have sex again until my son was 3 months old... then we started to get regual again after 5 months.... like once a week.... but then different stresses and illness came and my sex drive went down again.... then we went on vacation and oops got pregnant again... my poor hubby.... so my sex drive once again took a nose dive... my poor hubby.... and I can't even "help him out" because I totally have the "don't touch me" phase going my son is due in 3 weeks lets see how it all goes this time around BUT you are not alone
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13 years ago
Chloe's Mama
I'm with "Daniel's Mommy" on this one. I had a c-section and was intimate with my boyfriend 3 weeks later. I know a lot of moms have a lot going on and lose their desire for sex. I was fortunate enough to not have that happen. (not even while i was pregnant) I do think that its important to keep a level of intimacy with your spouse as many new dads feel like they're no longer important when the baby arrives.
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13 years ago
<3 Ariana's Mommy <3
Sex life.... what sex life? lol Same for me, im just not at all interested in sex anymore. Since I had my baby girl ( shes 4 months old ) I have not been able to pay as much attention to my guy, and when I do get quiet time with him, I just want to chill out and relax, NOT have sex. I don't know if this is the same for you, but since I had my baby I know I have been ignoring my guy, and he feels really left out.... and I dont even care. I know thats kinda mean, but a few of my mommy friends are the same way.
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13 years ago
DevonChaos
I have 5 kids, and my drive hasn't slowed down at all. I'm pretty much at the same level that I've always been. Not to get too personal, but I'd be okay with sex every day.
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13 years ago
Anonymous
What sex life? lol I;m just not in the mood anymore. I have felt that way since the birth of my son. Apparently, the birth of my son has had no affect on my husband's sex drive though
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