14 years ago
mmmmm
I've never had a girlfriend?
I just turned 19 and I've never had a girlfriend before, and it sucks. I'm really shy, I consider myself extremely nice to everyone, I'm the one guy that makes sure girls get home safely after parties, I even give up my coat or sweatshirt if a girls cold (sounds cheesy, but I just feel obligated to do it). I've been told I look like Matt Damon and Leonardo Dicaprio many, many times, I'm tall and well built. The only reason why I said that, is just to give you guys a better understanding of my situation, I'm normally very humble.
I've had one hookup since elementary school, and it was a 5 - 10 second make-out. Only reason why it happened was because one of my friends told her I've been eying her all night or something. I had no idea what I was doing when he pushed me towards her, so I'm guessing it was a pity kiss.
It just sucks being what seems like the guy who's never really had a girlfriend before. Most of my friends are cocky and they get woman so easily. Even if I were to get rid of my shyness, I have no idea where to meet girls. The parties I go to are pretty much all the same people I've known through high school, and if they're not, then they already have a boyfriend 90% of the time. I don't know where to meet girls, and I don't know how to get myself to talk to them.
14 years ago
sku11er
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lol well im just ganna mention i was extremly shy untill my first relationship. once you get practice you get a let less shy and learn because you know what to do
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7 years ago
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Bro, there's nothing to be concerned about here. I have a little cousin who is 17 and despite the fact he is exceptionally gifted and confident he's never had a girl-friend either. It really comes down to finding the one that's gonna make you comfortable enough to talk to her. I know making the first move is one of the most nerve racking things a guy can go through. I'm a soldier and I've had plenty of female companions, but I'd rather throw a grenade then talk to a chick. Just think of it this way, all you can do is try and if you aren't successful you'll be in the same position you would if you never tried at all, except much braver (kinda like your first fight). Also pay attention to the type of women you want to talk to. If you find a woman that fits your style and personality it should be much easier to talk to them. And all that glitters isn't gold, personality is more important than looks in a relationship and lasts much longer. Other than that just be yourself, then you don't have to worry about remembering anything. Hope this helps.
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14 years ago
Kendy
Try the library. You sound very well read. I love my boyfriend because he is smart, and at the same time understands that I have to learn my own lessons in life, because there is a three year age difference. You have to be understanding and realizing that not every girl is the same.
But the key thing, it to recognize when you're being stepped on. You obviously know. Why should you take that?
What really got me over my shyness was taking a chorus class.
Singing in front of a group of people was terrifying. But I managed it.
Maybe move away from where you are living? People change with the enviorment they are put in.
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14 years ago
Anonymous
You sound the same as me, no joke. I'm 19 (and got my first bf at 19 as well)...the relationship didn't last long though. I was single all up until this year after I graduated from High School.
Now that I'm in College, I dont like anyone I go to school with. I'm shy and don't know how to talk to people most of the time, expectially new people I don't really know.
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14 years ago
Anonymous
Don't sweat it. I am 17 and in my first relationship (2 years). She was my first kiss and everything. I know that my girlfriend told me I was different than the other guys. She thinks it is good when there a gentlemen and not complete (quote) "meatheads" haha. Don't worry, there is someone out there waiting. Live your life and love will be in mysterious places. I was friends with my girlfriend 3 years before we were together and I had never felt anything more towards her back then but these things work weirdly. Good luck
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14 years ago
Snowy
Hi,
Looking alike two of the gorgeous guys in Hollywood is saying that you are one piece of art! Chivalry is a long lost description for a guy after girls went wild to men with attitudes like Kanye West and Akon. I am sure that there are gazillion of girls still waiting for a man who will sweep them off their feet. The man who will make them feel secured, comfortable, gentleman, the man who will treat them right and I am sure you are matured for your age. Explore other activities aside from partying. Do things you love to do you might meet the one you have been waiting for in there and sure shot you have something in common, something to talk about already by then you wouldn't find it difficult to interact.
Good Luck!
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14 years ago
Anonymous
don't worry! It's not the end of the world! It might sound wierd but love comes in places you least expect. Seriously, give yourself a break and stop thinking that the be all and end all is a girlfriend! Go clubbing with different friends and meet friends OF other friends. Good luck! X
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14 years ago
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mmmm... Well, if you're as nice as you say you are then stop! I think you possibly might be coming off as fake! I know this sounds weird but.. if you think about it.. yeah. Just be a little 'outgoing' or 'not so nice'! Change things up a bit! Also, if you disagree with a girl (not extremely, though) it will keep the convo. going! Good luck!
Oh and girls might be intimidated by your hotness!
Yeah, lucky little b****!
I'm shy but, yeah, younger than you. Laters!
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14 years ago
SheepishFrank
you sound like a pretty cool guy, but you may be intimidating to those girls that would pursue you. your best bet is to muster up the courage and go for the girl. if your in college this is a great time to join clubs and such where you can hang out with a new group of people who like the things you do. (my bro is 19 and has never had a gf, but he joined his schools ski team and has met a bunch of really cool girls who liek to ski/snowboard as much as he does)
right now it sounds like you need a new crowd of people in order to find a gf.
but think to yourself, do you really want a gf, and do you really need a gf, or are you content with yourself now
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14 years ago
West Daddy
hey don't feel bad I was in the same boat till 23. then met a great girl from a friend and its all good. she's out there you just find her in an odd place and time
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